(Parents should know that their kids can do things by their own)
TRANSLATOR: Salma Syeda
KEYWORDS: Children , Parents, Freedom ,Mental Development, Training, Social Skills, Expectations, Responsibility, Encouragement .
As children get older, they need to be given more responsibilities. When you do all the basic things for them, you can not call it attention and love. In fact, children can learn without help sometimes, but if we do not give children the necessary freedom, this learning can not happen and even the child will not learn their basic tasks. For these children with high self-confidence and a more responsible spirit, the following five strategies can be used:
1- Make a list.
Make a list of things your child has to do on his or her own, such as getting dressed up, arranging his or her own toys and so on. Talk to yourself and see what they think they can do. If they do not have the confidence to work, tell them to practice in front of you. Of course, do not leave tasks to them that they are not prepared for. Keep in mind that children do things better if they are given positive freedom.
2- Keep your expectations within the limits.
Children are still understanding their motor skills, so some inadequacies may occur, such as spilling water when they want to drink. If they make a mistake, try not to criticize them. Instead, gently show them the right way to do things. Explain that everyone can make mistakes and no one is perfect.
- Give them enough time
Compared to adults, children need more time to do their homework. Give them time to planning and execution. For example, if it takes ten minutes for your baby to get dressed in the morning, start your daily routine earlier sothat he or she has more time to do so. During this exercise, they learn to perform their tasks faster.
- Establish a daily routine.
Children need a daily routine to manage their responsibilities. If their daily routine is constantly changing, they will be confused. When you give them more complex tasks, explain it to them in full. For example, you can tell your child that he or she needs to arrange his or her toys before he or she gets ready for bed. As it approaches bedtime, remind your child that he or she should change his /her daywear dress and wear a night dress.
- Encourage children.
Children like to be appreciated for what they do. Praise your child when he or she did something alone, especially if he or she has done it with your without any help. Even if he did a part of the job wrong, encourage him for the part he did right. For example, if they wear their clothes in reverse, you can encourage them to choose the right clothes. When they feel frustrated, try to overcome that frustration by encouraging them.
In short, it seems to be much easier if you do things for your child; But when you give them a chance to do their own thing, they develop a sense of responsibility and they feel they can do things for themselves. As they grow older, they will be able to use these problem-solving skills to cope with new situations and challenges. In a more compact manner, independence and responsibility is achieved by a person who is self-confident, resourceful, and able to recognize and meet his/her needs.