Teaching kids to be strong; But kind!

From the very primary school level, children react differently to oppression and injustice. Some accept it and adapt to the circumstances,Some children ask adults for help. But a group of children not only defend themselves against oppression and injustice, but also take care of their friends so that no one tramples on their rights.
In this article we shall look at what parents can do to raise courageous and kind children.Lets try to discuss them one by one:

  1. Self-esteem: One of the most important factors that cause courage and mettle in children and adults is the existence of self-esteem. A person who has self-esteem considers himself/herself a valuable being and considers himself /herself worthy to defend his /her rights, and he/she is not afraid of anyone in this matter.

Here are some ways in which parents can boost their children’s self-esteem:
In order for parents to develop self-esteem in their children, they must first strengthen their self-esteem. Because children learn isolation and passivity by observing parents who have low self-esteem and can not defend their most natural rights in society, not right-seeking.
Show your child in different ways how much you love them and are happy that they are in your life. This will make your child feel good about himself/herself and gain more self-esteem on your part. The fact that your child feels that despite all his/her mistakes, he/she is still loved and accepted by you makes him feel valued, and if he/she is rejected in society and not supported, there will not be much change in his/her self-esteem.

Parental perfectionism and the fact that they expect their child to do all the work flawlessly will be a serious threat to children’s self-esteem. If children make mistakes, it is better for parents to tell their children there is no problem and you are not a bad boy or a bad girl. And do not generalize his/her mistake to his/her whole character.

If your child is performing poorly in a series of tasks and lessons. It is better to examine his/her weakness in real size ,away from exaggeration, and to take action to solve this problem and weakness. Parents labeling their child of his or her weaknesses and mistakes reduces his or her self-esteem and courage.
It is good to consult your child in matters in which he is capable.
Parents can guide their children to do the skill and art work that their child is interested in and capable of. To strengthen their child’s self-esteem by observing the output of the work he has done.

  1. Assertiveness skills: Parents should develop assertiveness skills in their children so that they can insist on the demands of their own rights, express their true feelings without any anxiety, take their rights into account by considering the rights of others. Teach them not bto give up easily.

3- Familiarity with your rights and the rights of others: Introduce your child to different rights in different dimensions and in different environments and also to other human rights, nature , plant rights and animal rights.

4- Risk-taking spirit: Strengthen the risk-taking spirit in your child and do not scare him / her that he / she is trying to get his / her right.
Sometimes children are not afraid to get their rights, but parents are worried about their child because of the great kindness and love they have for them.They do not want the slightest thing to threaten their child’s physical and mental health. This concern, if not addressed in a timely manner, can make the child timid and weak.

5- Proper timely support: When your child has a problem with one of his/her friends and feels that he/she has been abused, refrain from entering and solving the problem yourself until the child is not seriously harmed. . In such situations, it is better for you to teach him/her how to solve the problem and ways to solve the problem, and to support him/her intellectually and emotionally .


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